"Although most [people with penises] figure out how to bring themselves to orgasm by age thirteen, half of [people with vulvas] don’t have their first orgasms until their late teens, twenties, or beyond. Teenage [people with vulvas] widely agree that they get the message loud and clear that masturbation is something [people with penises] do, but [people with vulvas] don’t, can’t, or shouldn’t. The cultural focus on intercourse tells young [people with vulvas] to expect they’ll begin to experience sexual pleasure once they have sex with [people with penises] (whether or not they’re even interested in sex with [people with penises]). Nearly all teen [people with penises], on the other hand, experience sexual pleasure long before they get their hands—or other body parts—into a partner’s pants. Despite the massive advances in [people with vulvas]’s equality, young [people with vulvas]’s sexuality is stuck in a surprising paradox. Young [people with vulvas] are sold provocative clothes but aren’t taught where to find their own clitoris. Many [people with vulvas] give [people with penises] oral sex, but are too uncomfortable with their own bodies to allow the [people with penises] to return the favor. It’s still a radical act to say that [people with vulvas] need and deserve access to information about their own sexual pleasure—not just about the risks and negative consequences of sex."