Saturday, October 26, 2013
Friday, October 25, 2013
It is not the unloved who initiate disaffection, but those who cannot love because they love only themselves. It is not the helpless, subject to terror, who initiate terror, but the violent, who with their power create the concrete situation which begets the ‘rejects of life.’ It is not the tyrannized who initiate despotism, but the tyrants. It is not those whose humanity is denied them who negate humankind, but those who denied that humanity (thus negating their own as well). Force is used not by those who have become weak under the preponderance of the strong, but by the strong who have emasculated them.
But I think misogyny is rooted in something else, something Wong does hint at before scrambling away to make more jokes about how women can’t know what it’s like to really feel sexual desire. It’s hard to talk about, because it cuts right to the bone in something humans don’t like to talk about, but it’s about the will to dominate. I think men become misogynists not because their intense horniness short circuits their brain. It’s because they feel entitled to have women in a submissive position to them. They want to live in a world where women are considered automatically dumber, where women are expected to clean up after them, wipe their brows, and kiss their asses, all with a smile on our faces and without asking much more in return but an occasional bit of jewelry and a door-opening, which is just as much about the man feeling more powerful as it is about being nice to the woman. They want to control women sexually, not because they’re more horny, but because sexual control is just one more form of control. Misogynists especially dislike women having reproductive control, because if a woman can’t control her pregnancies, she’s going to be more dependent on a man, and they believe that makes it easier for them. If women are dependent, you don’t need to be nice to your wife to get her to stay. She doesn’t have a choice, and that’s how they like it. They believe in their hearts that women are inferior, and fear that if they’re disproved in this contention, their entire sense of self will crumble, because that sense of self is all built on being a “man”. They get angry and mock other men they believe are trying to hard to be pleasing to women—genuinely pleasing, not faux “build skyscrapers” pleasing—but men who take care of their looks to be sexually attractive (they get dismissed as “metrosexual”) or men who treat women with respect. Those men are seen as undermining the united front to artificially lower women’s standards. […] More importantly, men get to feel hornier because they’re socially supported in this. The whole of society is geared toward titillating men and discouraging female sexual desire. It’s inherent to the Nice Guy® complaint, where men are entitled to feel physical attraction, but a woman who wants more than “nice” is shallow. It’s evident in the way men and women dress, with women always mindful to wear stuff that makes them sexually attractive, whereas men have the opposite problem, and have to avoid being too sexualized lest they seem feminine. Naked women are draped over every inch of public space, and the internet is full of visually interesting porn for men, but our society barely can imagine what it would be like to try to attract a female eye. Men seem hornier in no small part because their sexuality is celebrated and codified. It’s easy for men to know right away how to be sexual, whereas women are still largely expected to figure it out for themselves—and even that’s a recent invention, because pre-feminism, women were mostly just expected to do what men wanted. To a large extent, that’s still true, but we’re at least getting a few glimmers of liberty for women, but in many ways, the past few generations of women are real pioneers in trying to figure out what sex means when we’re actually allowed to want it, even a little.
Misogyny isn’t caused by male horniness
Thursday, October 24, 2013
please get your fucking shit together.
one of your many over stressed, under paid employees
Reblog if you are a woman who is offended by the lyrics in Blurred Lines
I will be writing a sociological research paper about the effects of the lyrics in Robin Thicke’s Blurred Lines.
Please reblog this if you are a female who finds the lyrics of this song offensive or upsetting.
The equal post for men can be found here.
hours later i expect this post to have thousands of notes.
This post has 13 times the number of notes the one for men has. Shocker.