someone explain to me how parents can scream at you until you’re crying and then act like nothing happened 20 minutes later
It’s called gaslighting and it’s an abusive behavior.
and then they ask what the hell is wrong with you why are you looking at them like that when you start giving them the silent treatment
THIS IS A REALLY IMPORTANT SIGN OF VERBAL ABUSE TO RECOGNIZE
AND THE WORST PART IS THAT USUALLY THE ABUSER HAS NO REGRETS ABOUT IT OR WILL CHANGE THE STORY AROUND ENTIRELY
SO WHAT YOU DO IS WRITE DOWN WHAT HAPPENED IMMEDIATELY AFTER ITS HAPPENED. WRITE DOWN WHAT THEY SAID ASAP AFTER THEY’VE SAID IT
KEEP A JOURNAL
SHOW IT TO SOMEONE WHO CAN HELP YOU
DON’T GIVE UP BECAUSE THEY REFUSE TO ACKNOWLEDGE IT!
DON’T GIVE UP BECAUSE A WITNESS MAY REFUSE TO ACKNOWLEDGE IT!
YOU. KNOW. WHAT. HAPPENED.
this is really super important, and I’m glad this person brought this up.
My parents did this to me as a child, till it got to the point that I could no longer remember what actually happened when we fought, because they would always twist the story around and make it seem true, and it is something that continues to happen to me to this very day. I almost never remember what someone said or did in a fight. It’s like a blur. PLEASE. PLEASE. PLEASE. Do these steps, write it down, and get help if you can.
I wish this had been around when I was young.
my mom always did this to me too. she still tries to do it and I’m 30 god damn years old.